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Never say Never
Watching Matrix on cinema left in my mind one phrase. "Everything that has a beggining, has an end".
Most probably this post is what it is about.
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Selfborder 8 | Incapacity of Love
When I am not receiving the grams of love I need I can even fell in love with my hand, with a table or with the clouds on an empty sky.
It is strange.
My No1 value is Independence of Myself. Nevertheless, I am ready to give a big kick in my pile-shaped value system and break it down at times when I need that the only thing I want is to depend on someone else.
Yes, sometimes I need to be dependable on others. I need to depend on you, on your love and your caring attention on me, on your smile, on your positive smile.
If you are there, if you read me, just know that I am here.
Readers Post 3 | "Sharing is Posting" from Anastasia Pechlivanidou
I always wanted to be one of those people that would be in the future founders of a new humanism movement. Everything for people and around them. But what do people need now? After a weird discussion with a person who changed my life rapidly, I started considering how would I be helpful to my surroundings? My realization was that the time of fast movements is all around, and people tend to lose focus and themselves. So something must stop us – must give us a motive to look what is going on around.
The new era is the one of communication, internet, Facebook, twitter, linkedin and so many others – this is the place where we grow up, get informed, and find out opportunities and even friends. So this is the place where people will find depravation and evolution – if you cannot beat the system, change it!
My personal favorite hobby, except my work, is scanning the internet and tracking down opportunities. Most of the things that I find do not attract me, maybe because I have found who I am and what I will do with my life. But there are thousands of people out there searching for their life and meanings behind questions. All the things I find - articles, contests, events, interesting groups or pages -are always posted on my facebook profile. It would very selfish from my side to find all those wonderful things, and keep them for myself – especially when I do not practically use them.
Maybe my posts and my sharing intrigue someone to create a breakthrough, maybe my posts will become a milestone in somebody’s life…I will be happy if people start sharing all the things they know but do not need, so as to help others. I will be happier if I am one of those peopleJ.
Bridge 10 | Small Pleasures
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11th Border | World of our Own
"Why are we failing?" is a question I adore.
Every single thing I can see around looks like having one single effect of our failure as persons, villagies, cities, societies, world. Worst thing, people who believe that these failures can be edited are called "dreamers" and usually are pussed aside as "not down to earth".
Why have we lost the will to see the world the way we want to live in?
We are not the revolutionary ages of earlier years of recent history? Life is not a game, so there are no rules. If we want rules we make them. If we don't like them we erase or change them. We should all feel the ownership of our planet and lives. In Greece we say: "This is mine! You don't tell me what to do with that! If I like I put fire and burn it down!". What we do now is burning down a planet because we feel that it is not ours when it really is. If fire is the choice we have to understand we put fire on ourselves, on our property!
There is still hope
There is a small percentage of the people that has claimed the ownership of the world in a way that to those it is not obvious now, will be coming more obvious year by year. Hope today is written in arabic. آمال . And the reasons are three: Tunisia, Egypt and Yemen. Do something good. Learn about what's going on these two countries. Talk if you can with someone that is local. Choose yourself the source of your info. Don't choose TV
When you have some time check these:
There are also with many language subtitles available on the web
Bridge 9 | Time to achieve
On every new year ever we are making wishes for the year to come. But when is the time for some actions? In fact, now.
In order to have the best use of our time we need to set goals and also set the right ones.
There is one very nice excercise I learnt when I was in Italy that can help you find some nice goals. Get a big paper, create 12 columns, on the top of each one write a month. Think of the last year and write down things you did last year (you can check your mails, calendar, emails, mobile phones, etc in order to remeber the most things possible). Then draw a line showing how good or not that good your mood was last year on each month.
Then check the time your mood was lowest and find the things that you have to do in order this year your mood not to fall if there are going to be same periods (eg if your mood falls during exams, set a goal to read some lessons during the previous months, etc.).
Then check the months your mood was set to high and do the opposite. Try to repeat the good stuff. After periods that your mood will certainly decrease (eg exams again) create a gift to yourself at the exact end of it that you can think of it during the low mood time (for example plan a trip).
Remember to set some goals for your health and body (workout, food you eat, exercises), for your future (studies, CV making, skills you want to acquire), your mental health (reading, movies, music, hobbies etc) and also add things that you have never done to do!
If you need some help on that you can find on the website www.43things.com Write things you want to achieve and check other people that want to achieve the same things as you. Get inspired by other people's achievements or things they want to achieve. If you log in through facebook you can see friends using the website!
Set goals, you will love achieving them!
Remember that every wish remains just a wish just till the moment you write it down and try to achieve it! Then it becomes a target!
Remember that every wish remains just a wish just till the moment you write it down and try to achieve it! Then it becomes a target!
aLifeWithoutBorders | 2010 Report!
The Top 5 posts* of aLifeWithoutBorders in 2010 were:
1. Selfborder 7 | Something wicked this week comes 171 Readers
2. 8th Border | I am not a racist, do I? 144 Readers
3. Bridge 6 | People Love People 140 Readers
4. Selfborder 4 | Procrastination 131 Readers
5. 9th Border | A matter of respect 118 Readers
*Posts published before September do not have counted posts. Readers counted on 1st January
My Undiscovered Top 3 Posts in 2010 are:
Special thanks to:
My Brother Stamatis for promoting my blog to half population of Katerini and for even teaching English to his friends couldn't read my blog (:,
Larry Ioanninidis for promoting my blog in his (a-m-a-z-i-n-g) blog and for all the feedback, technology breakthrough etc. etc.,
Danai Angelopoulou and Elena Lamprou for being the first too readers to post on the blog (I am looking forward for more people),
Bora Mezetziou for her great ideas and suggestions on how to promote my blog in the future,
Eleana Terzaki, Anna Skryabina, Marianthi Milea for commenting, telling me how you like my blog and helping me being focused on that I am doing,
All my friends for reading, Like-ing and promoting my blog.
Last but not least thank YOU for reading this post.
I promise 2011 will be even more bright for aLifeWithoutBorders.
Bridge 8 | "Selling" Santa Claus to town
The moment we learn that our red-hat Santa doesn’t exist is the moment we lose our childhood.
It is the moment that the magic world we live in, with all the love-sharing heroes and kind elves comes to an end. It is the moment that fantasy becomes reality and the world around us looks a bit more like the world we know today. That’s why we should cater a lot for the bridge from childhood to adolescence.
These days I am always thinking the way I learnt about Santa Claus. I think my parents did the best work in that and I want to share it with you briefly.
Few years before, I had a fight with my friends in school, where half of us were claiming that Santa was true and the rest claiming that Santa is a totally made up story. I was left aside, a bit of sad, wondering why parents didn’t meet in a conference or something to decide which story to tell to their kids and prepared my words in order to show them that I am not a child and as an adult I demanded the truth I deserved. (:
My mam told me then that unfortunately many many years before Santa did live and was a real giving person. And that was the reason people got inspired and continued his service under the mask of Santa Claus. They asked me sorry for telling that lie to me, but they told that it is important to Santa the kids to believe in him.
P.S. My side effect was to dream to become a Santa on day, but don’t worry, I woke up early!
Selfborder 7 | Something wicked this week comes
Merry Christmas! Happy Birthday and Happy New Year...
Why do in two out of three happy occasions we cherish the day and not the year?
To be honest I cannot find a single (pervert) reason that we do it. But for sure I find it wicked.
Who’s that person haven’t ever heard someone saying: “I don’t do Christmas, every Christmas I get depressed” or “Sorry for not picking up the phone on my Birthday, I was feeling a bit of under the weather”?
Our massive societies and economies are functioning like huge Military Services of Happiness. Anyone who’s not happy gets a strange look in the eyes from the people around or a huge tag as “Depressive” or “Melancholic” in a way that becomes almost discriminative.
If we open our eyes, we will see that people, without even understanding that, are naturally going against this order. Check most selling Hollywood movies and you’ll see that the feelings on sale are fear, excitement and painful tears. Is it happening accidentally that these are the feelings we are hiding when in public?
I am not sure if it is the Marketing Economy that pusses us to “Happiness”.
“Come on it’s your birthday, let’s buy alcohol till getting wasted!”!
Successes and happiness have a lot to celebrate while tears are for private parties.
What I am seeing is that people are in need of Feelings. Check all art pieces around and they scream pain, fear and anxiety. I am not sure if it is because we are trying so immaturely to hide these feelings or because we feel blunt when we do not have them.
What I am trying to say is that it is not important if we do not have a kiss on Christmas, it is not important if we will not party hard on our birthday and it is not at all important to have the most unforgettable New Years’ Eve. The important is our life to have the people, the level of joy and unforgettable experiences we want to.
We should not feel bad for ourselves or for the people who spend their “Big Days” of the year alone. We should feel bad when we/they are spending the whole year alone.
Bridge 7 | 3 Seconds
Some days before I was in a conference that while discussions were held there was a strange rule that made my mind go bright!
Every time a speaker was finishing talking the whole table had to wait and count silently for 3 seconds. After a while, as we were used to that we started thinking about what had the other person really talked about.
It was like a mirracle! I found a small bridge for Selfborder 3 | Our brains have no bluetooth attached.
What if we stopped thinking about what we want to say and waiting for 3 seconds in all of our discussions?
Reader Post 1 | Random Thoughts from Danai Angelopoulou
I started writing this after a conversation I had about family.How important it is in our lives, how much they influence us while growing up, if we will keep the same model for creating our own family even if we know that something didn't work out, if we always seek for a ''family'' when we feel alone and we are away from home...
Thinking about being away from home, made me wonder how important adjustment is. Is it the same easy/difficult for a person to change house/country/language/friends/colleagues? Is it bad when somebody needs more time or even is reluctant to sacrifice his/her coziness and convenience for something better..or not...for something different, for a risk.
Thinking about time and risk. When do we settle down? Is there an age limit where someone should get married, have a permanent job etc. No there isn't, I am sure that is the right answer. Then why do people gossip about you if you don't follow these society norms?
Thinking about society norms. Why do many people give up doing what they want, saying what they think just because the others will criticize them? How strong can we be against the mass? Do we want to be against the mass? How sensitive or fearless are we against the ''rumours''?
Too many questions and random thoughts...
Danai has also posted on her facebook profile:
«Βιώνουμε μια κρίση διότι χάσαμε την επαφή με την πραγματικότητα. Αντιμετωπίζουμε τους ανθρώπους και τα χρήματα σαν να παίζουμε βιντεο-γκέιμ. Είμαστε πιο ευγενικοί με τους γείτονές μας μέσω της οθόνης του υπολογιστή, παρά όταν τους συναντούμε στο δρόμο»
Translation: "We are experiencing a crisis because we have lost touch with reality. We treat the people and money like playing video games. We are more kind to our neighbors through the computer screen than when they meet on the street"
10th Border | What we never say cause it's private
Have you ever had a discussion that made you feel like the lyrics of Linkin Park song say: "I discovered I was not the only person with those things in mind?"
This post has to do with what we never discuss openly about Sex. I had an exciting discussion lately and understood that no matter if we discuss 24/7 about sex nobody gets to the point.
It seems probable to me that West-Cristiano civilization has created millions of taboos that seem to be a current reality. If we look time from a distance we can see that ethics was unfortunately a matter of religious perception and not a matter of intelligence and thinking.
We consider Human beings as progressed but I think that either we are just unable to think free or we are hypocrites.
A good example could be masturbation.
Who does talk about masturbation with friends?
Who does masturbate?
I never suggested to anyone to go out and tell in public about them private life, but my question is why we never share it with anyone? Why are we ashamed and why do we consider specific things as private?
Try, if you want, to have a chat with a friend of yours openly about your masturbation routines and you will see that pleasure can also be fun.
9th Border | A matter of Respect
Our lives would be different if the word “Respect” would not exist. We wouldn’t leave our seats in the metro in order the elder to sit, we wouldn’t greet people with expressions reflecting health, we might never be standing up when professors were entering the place and we would eat all our food before dad reaches home.Nevertheless, we all have thought about respect. The question I want to ask is: Should we expect others to respect us when we do not respect ourselves? Are we supposed to expect respect for our stuff, places, homes, cities, countries when we do not respect them?
Seldborder 6 | Intentions VS Outcomes
A lot of times we judge people, companies and everyone around, not for their actions but for their intentions. This is the new modern life. We judge not for what we see but for what we think lies behind actions.
This is cool. If we can do it correctly, we are The People 2.0. But what, if not?
What if it is just correct when a company starts a green campaign and no one says: “They do it to make more money! They are pretentious!” What if it is just correct when someone supports everyone and no one thinks: “This is the only way to have more friends!”
Wouldn’t in that case our lives be nicer? Wouldn’t we be better people and wouldn’t we have more and more people not doing good things because they would be criticized on their behavior wrongly?
Maybe yes, maybe not.
By the way check the new video of Katy Perry. Maybe her intentions will never be known but the outcome looks good.
8th Border | I am not a racist, do I?
Imagine that scene: You are on a journey with a bus. In the middle of the trip there is a 20 min break. You notice that everyone left the bus and decide to go back and make sure your stuff are not getting stolen. When entering inside you see an awkward gypsy woman sneaking next to her kid into a pretty luxurious bag while talking rapidly to a strange language you don't understand. How do you react? Someone's stuff are being stolen!
I kinda looked her into her eyes angrily. I was shocked. Having been burglared few weeks before seems to awaken into me rough feelings. I thought: "How bad it is to use your kid as a co-theft"!
She left the stuff there and rushed to go outside. I felt like not doing anything. At least she probably didn't steal anything and having her smugged from a whole bus in front of her son was a hell of a punishment for the kid.
I thought of asking people to come and check their stuff but none was close to the bus. I sat on my seat sad thinking about the disgrace and sympathy of our civilisation that gets people pushed to steal in order to eat a piece of bread and others to steal because too much is never enough. I sat there lone and sad to only understand a while later that that gypsy woman was just another passenger of the bus travelling with her kid!
I sat sad there forever. I understand that I am deceived about racism spread around us, about the racism I could have stupidly spread also.
Bridge 6 | People Love People
When I was a bit younger I suggested my grandma to put in the same box a chicken and dog! I thought that the outcome would be magnificent. A dog that takes care of the ingredients of your omelete and... who knows? Maybe flying also a bit.
My grandma hopefully seemed a hell wiser than me and told me that a chicken whould never believe a male dog saying that he will take care of her kids so she would never born these hush puppies.
So, I came up with a conclusion. Roosters love chickens, male dogs love female dogs as exactly men fell in love with women! What a kid!
I was raised with that kind of the idea considering anything else as paranormal activity. Lately though I got across with many new phenomena. A woman in Germany engaged to the Berlin Wall, a guy from Japan got married to a game boy character that was about to last as much as the batteries did and I was feeling fallen apart that never thought of getting married with the green rug in my room I am so much in love with.
In the beggining I thought: "Hmmm, weird people!". Then I made jokes: "What if the Berlin Wall cheat on his wife?". But then I saw a documentary on people finding love in the face of a plastic, not cheap at all, hologram of a real person, doll.
Almost a bit of desperate of look got in my eyes. How could I now say to my grandma that she just said to me 20 years before a freaky lie? Does she know that maybe a chicken will never give birth to a dog's child but might end up finding the only love left on earth on a dog's face?
The documentary I saw called "Guys and Dolls" depicts the lives of men that end up with the choice of a plastic partner. It is so easy to judge someone like that, so easy to stick the "Retarted" label on them, but what if we are all retarted?
We are retarted. Yes, we do. We don't understand that there are people around us that they need love and this need is a universal feeling. They prefer to receive it from the leg of a chair, than from none.
We don't seem to understand that in the phrase "People Love People", the only word deserving to be written in capitals can not be touched by "...".
Guys and Dolls
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